What would you do if you had unlimited resources and could not fail? This is a question that I’ve been asked in various forms throughout my life. I’m sure my answer changes almost every time. Yet I believe that there needs to be a couple other questions asked that might be as important, what is stopping you from doing it? Also why would you want to do this? Typically the answer comes down to a fear of failure or a lack of resources or even not actually knowing how to do that which you strive to set out to do.
Finding a cure for cancer, flying, space exploration, and many more are just a few of the things people would love to do. Yet for many somewhere along the way, when we separate ideal from motivation (why) or execution (what’s stopping you). Or we become so obsessed about failing that we don’t try to begin. Yet it is in trying and allowing ourselves to fail that “accidents” have turned into innovation. It is in failing that we learn and grow. It is in living and loving and making a wonderful mess of things we thought we had planned out that we start to understand things in a deeper and truest since.
While it’d be awesome to know that I couldn’t fail, it’s sometimes coming to the understanding that I by myself can’t accomplish some things that brings me in line with something outside of myself. It is this failure and imperfection that leads to a desire for something more, for something greater. It is this failure that leads to needing a community to love and support and build me up. It is this failure that causes introspection to understand what my purpose is or what the next step might be, when my first plan fails.
Therefore, one of my biggest and probably scariest goals for this year is to work on failing more. If I’m not failing it probably means I’m not trying. If I’m not failing I’m probably not growing or learning. If I’m not failing, it probably means that I’m not loving or being loved to the best of my ability. If I’m not failing, then how can I truly know what it is that I’m capable of.
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. – Marianne Williamson